I know that many of us are accustomed to giving more importance to others than ourselves. And, yes, I know it right because I’ve done it too. We have grown by directing our behavior and our actions towards the benefit of others. Personally, I have always thought twice before doing anything just to be completely sure that what I will do will not affect anyone, will not disturb others and will contribute positively to the lives of those around me but… What about this side? I have forgotten myself many times and it is time to stop doing it.
Many people can say that this is selfish, anti-social, anti-moral, anti-ethical, anti-everything; but the reality is… We can’t spend our whole lives thinking about others, helping them in everything they need… Because, if we do so, what happens to our dreams, our goals, our desires and our needs?
For a long time, I have been afraid of being too much in people’s lives, of taking too much time, of demanding what I should not. I wanted to be small and have no one looking at me, noticing me. I took more care of their integrity than mine, I struggled a lot trying to make them feel good and comfortable but the truth is that I am also important, I must also take care of myself and feel as comfortable as the rest.
So I simply decided to get up. I realized that I’m allowed to take up space and I’m completely willing to do it. I understood that I cannot make the lives of others better if that implies making mine not good enough.
Both, I and each of you have the right to express ourselves, to raise our voices, to do what we are destined to do, to fight for our dreams, to be brave and risk doing what we want… And if someone does not feel comfortable about it, they just have to deal with it on their own.
Loving and accepting ourselves is not selfishness. Taking care of ourselves and making our happiness a priority is the key to a life of joy.